Happy Wife…Happy Life…..huuuummmm?

This is true ya know… we definitely set the mood for our home and those who are in it. So it’s in the husband’s best interest to keep a smile on your face. Not an easy task always, I’ll give them that much.

Sometimes it’s the simplest of things that makes us so darn happy happy happy… things like taking out the trash before it’s overflowing, putting the toilet seat down as opposed to leaving EVERY seat up in EVERY bathroom in the house, grooming the dogs so that they don’t shed all over the carpet immediately after you’ve JUST vacuumed, listen to our endless chatter about our day of grocery shopping and how much you wanted to smack that lady at the store for talking on her cell phone & rudely blocking the isle to the Weight Watchers ice cream selections, and speaking of that honey I am starting a new diet! Now let me tell you all about that for the next 35 minutes… You get the point

There’s other ways they make us happy.. they show enthusiasm when we seem to be all giddy about a new project we are starting (even if they are sure it’s another phase and we’ll quickly grow bored of it) They tell us how much they love us and how much better they are for having us in their life (even though we drive them absolute batty at times) They make you feel like you’re pretty and desired even when you are feeling bloated and hideous… They make you feel like, uh, well “A Natural Woman”

 

Too cheezy? Sorry … I digress J

My point to all of this is we need & want them, We= us womens Them= our mens, to do those things for us, and there’s nothing wrong with that...But in return we need to keep in mind that they to need & want from us also. Because ……………

A Happy Husband Today is One that will Stay

…… Ok, sorry, I’ll stop with the one liners…even though it’s fitting

I’m all for equality and women’s lib and all that jazz. I want to walk BY my husband’s side not behind him. I want my opinion to count and to be heard. I don’t wear petticoats and I don’t always shave my legs (you know so that I don’t poke him to death at night) I don’t always have on a fresh coat of paint when he rises in the morning (you know, so I don’t scare him silly) I mean, he did marry me for better or for worse J

What I do have is a genuine interest in HIS day and sit patiently listening to all the details of how so&so didn’t do his job correctly and that put extra work on his plate and how this machine needed a new thingymabob and that machine broke it’s axel and he had to build a whatchmadoosey. I don’t nag the dickens out of him about the left up toilet seat and the water he left all over the bathroom floor after his shower or about the fact that he washed the dogs using my expensive hair conditioner… ‘cause sometimes ya know, it’s the simplest of things.

There are other ways I make him happy..I show him enthusiasm when he talks about his new project car or garage he’s gonna build (even though I’m sure it’s another phase and he’ll soon move on to another project) I make sure I tell him often how much I love him and how so very much better my life is with him in it (even though there are times he drives me batty J ) I let him know how handsome I think he is and give hugs & kisses out to him like candy. I let him know that I feel blessed when I think about “Us”

“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times.. but always with the same person” …Marriage is NOT 50/50, sometimes it’s 60/40 or 80/20 but a good one will always balance itself out. It’s important not to become apathetic or inattentive to your husband… for if you do, you may just not like what you end up with. And for you hubbys out there same goes for you!

Love one another deeply, Laugh often, Hugs & Kisses should be given without having to be asked for… if you’re not “feeling it” then you need to address it and fix it…

 

 

Aaahhh.. it’s so great having gained all this knowledge along with my ever appearing gray hairs and weakened eyesight otherwise known as aging :P

**DISCLAIMER** the thoughts and opinions expressed in this Blog are those of an Extremely satisfied & happy wife. They may or may not reflect those of another woman. If you find this insightful, helpful and or funny then I wish you all the same happiness as I … if you find any of this offensive, demeaning or blah then please call 555-kis-grits



My Daddy....

July 10th .... Today is my Daddy's Birthday, he would have been 66 years old and we would've had a celebration for him with lots of food, silliness & gifts (and he would have told us, "y'all shouldn't have done this" ) .... but not this year, we lost Daddy this past December.. So, instead of celebrating his birthday today I'm going to celebrate the Life he lived & the Love he gave.

 

The loss of a Daddy is a heavy burden to bear,

He's a source of quiet strength that is so missed when he's not there.

We take comfort that he's in Heaven looking down & shining through,

He'll be there through the coming years, watching over us and guiding to.

He's our very own Guardian Angel, and he'll be with us till the end.

When we meet again in Heaven and our broken hearts will finally mend....

 

My Daddy was serious, yet silly. He was firm, yet yielding. He was strong...Strong in strength, mind & heart. He was a loving husband, Daddy, Pawpaw, brother and friend. Although he wasn't without flaws, in my heart he made up for it tenfold. There were many demons he had to fight through in his lifetime and I think he succeeded in doing so. I believe if he had been given the choice to stay or go he most definitely would have stayed because he loved us so much. But life doesn't work that way and his time on Earth was done. So now we have a special Angel in Heaven... Our Daddy <3

Daddy worked as a Drywall man for many years. I remember wondering how in the world did Mama keep getting all that drywall mud washed off his clothes...

Daddy could play the guitar & sing very well. He even wrote a song that was produced & published by another singer, "Let's Go to God's House for Christmas" . He couldn't sing that song without making us girls cry..... "Let's go to God's house for Christmas, daddy please don't cry, it ain't so far away. Let's go to God's house for Christmas. Then we'll be there with mommy, to spend the holiday".... (I'm pretty sure he wrote this song in memory of his mama)

Daddy liked to hunt, and was quite good at that also.  I remember one time, he had shot a deer in the woods behind the house and couldn't drag it out by himself so he had to run all the way up to the house to get mama to help him. He was so out of breath from excitement and running that mama thought he was having a heart attack. hahaha

 

Daddy liked to fish to, especially with my Uncle Earl, his best buddy. Lots of Fish Tales & Waffle House stories between those 2 I'm sure.

My Daddy was a very smart man. He was book smart and street smart. No one could beat him at Trivial Pursuit (the original one in the blue box, the really hard one!) Some people know a little bit about a lot of stuff, but Daddy knew a lot of stuff about a lot of things.

Our Daddy was a Vietnam Veteran. He was very proud to have served and to be a Veteran of the United States Navy

Daddy bought himself a Karaoke system and loved to have Karaoke night at his house! He just loved having his sisters, Brenda, Sheila, Joyce & June to come over and sing all those Do-Whap & Oldie but Goody country songs. He also like it when me & my sisters were there singing to. Daddy would tell me how beautiful my voice was and how that we sounded like Angels singing.. (although I can carry a tune, I definitely wouldn't use beautiful or Angelic when describing my voice..but hearing my Daddy tell me that was the best thing!) 

Daddy LOVED the ocean, Gulf Shores was his favorite. In 2010 our whole family got a huge beach house in OBX and that's a vacation I will always remember...

Our Daddy LOVED Mama, that was for sure. They had 42 years together xoxoxo

 

Daddy sure did Love us girls to.. I feel that he had comfort in knowing that we were all doing well in life and that he had helped to raise 4 Great Daughters..... (even if I do say so myself :) )

The list of who all has been loved by Daddy goes on & on.. his Grandkids & Great Grandkids were all sparkles in his eyes....

 

 

This is an entire year of "firsts" for me, my sisters & mama. It's proving itself to be a hard one. I have my good days and my not so good days..... today is a mix of both. 

                                                                                                       



Happy Birthday Daddy... I hope your spending this day surrounded by love, music and laughter. I love you Daddy <3

 

If tears could build a stairway and thoughts a memory lane,

I'd walk right up to Heaven and bring you home again.

Since you'll never be forgotten, I promise you today,

A special place within my heart is where you'll always stay...